“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.”
Happiness is a pursuit after all.. You can be happy only if you make a conscious effort to!
Remember that 80-90 percent of what you fear will happen never really come into reality.
This is a big one but one that is easy to forget about. Most things you fear will happen never happen. They are just monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of time.
This is of course easy to say. But if you remind yourself of how little of what you feared throughout your life that has actually happened you can start to release more and more of that worry from your thoughts.
Focus on the solution and take action to make it real.
Worries tend to start small but can quickly become overwhelming when you feel powerless and are stuck in inaction. So as quickly as you can start thinking about how you can solve this situation or at least make it better.
Then take action and start working on that solution. You can start with a very small action, the important thing is that you start moving. When you feel like you have a direction forward and you have some control then the worries tend to lessen.
Accept that you cannot control everything in your life.
The last tip was about getting a handle on the situation. However, in some cases you have no control. If you have no control for a short while then you can distract yourself as mentioned above.
But for some things in life you just have to accept that you have little control. You can perhaps influence what is happening in future or in your relationships. But trying to find some kind of control and certainty just leads to frustration.
You have in those cases simply set your expectations at an unreal level and until you adjust them to reality you will create negativity within yourself and outside of yourself. With acceptance of the things that you can’t control you will however find more of an inner peace.
Find out what you are really worrying about.
This can be sneaky.
You think that you are worried about a relationship for example. But is that the root of your worries? Or are you actually worried about being laid off or that your company may not be making enough money to survive this year?
Sit down and really think about your worries instead of letting them bully your mind. Analyze what you worried about. Think about if there may be other causes or even another root to your worries than the one you are thinking about.
Try to find what you are really worried about deep down and start working on that. Instead trying to overcome or accept a worry that has no real root or cause.
Talk about it.
I find that talking about your worries with someone you trust is an excellent way to release it and to see your problem in a new light. Just having someone to listen and to ground you in reality again after your mind has gone off to irrational worry can many times just dissolve those negative thoughts and emotions.
If you find no one to talk to about your problem with then consider using a journal on your computer or on paper. Just letting it all out in some form can help you to release that pent up inner pressure and assist you in finding a new perspective and solutions.
From The Positivity Blog http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2011/01/14/how-to-not-worry-so-much/