Being on the receiving end

I’ve always been a believer of the two-way flow in any relationship, i.e.- adding value to the other person and receiving something in return. It always isn’t of the same kind or during the same time period, but it should happen at some point in the relationship. But can you estimate HOW much you are expected to return? I’ve been on the receiving end of quite a bit of help from people around me my entire life (as are all students, I guess). And more so, the past few rather stressful weeks. It has been emotional support, specialist support, material support.. Granted, all of it has been by family and friends who I trust and who hopefully trust me. But I still strongly feel the need to give back. And I’m not quite able to figure out how exactly to do so and how much is enough! Is “being there” for a friend who was “there” for you previously, good enough? Many times, you aren’t able to give back as soon as you would like to. It might even take a year! And how do you know if your sense of  repaying the person for their help is not exactly what they had in mind?

Above all, how do you let that other person know you are grateful for their help without killing yourself with guilt because you aren’t able to add anything to them right now? Turns out, being on the receiving end of help is not the expected bed of roses for my conscience.

-A rather confusing post, I must say. But of what use is a blog if it doesn’t act as a pensieve for the author. Hopefully you understood my scattered thoughts. 🙂

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6 thoughts on “Being on the receiving end

  1. Remember to pay it forward then.

    As inconceivable as it may seem now, there will come a time when you will significant power and access to opportunity to impact others.

    Remember to give back then.

    And of course, thank everyone and show your appreciation – atleast as much as you can.. right now. 🙂

  2. It doesn’t have to be a bilateral (one to one) transaction. Just be available to those who may need you. This way you will be part of the chain that lends a helping hand. What goes around …comes around.. No guilt in being the recipient . ( Ofcourse being grateful to those who stood by you is always good).

  3. As I see it, giving is a much more satisfying process than receiving (you imply this through this post as well). It shouldn’t need paying back as long as you were a good receiver => showed appreciation and maximized the giver’s feel good factor 🙂

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