“What did you do for lunch?” “Oh, I had a salad downstairs” “Oh, alone?!?!” “Erm…. yes.”

Why does our culture constantly place a taboo on being ‘alone’? I just don’t get why there is an instant look of pity that follows such a conversation…

Being alone helps me be with people better. I fully believe that is a pre-cursor to be comfortable in your own skin before you can be with someone else. But more importantly… people should be encouraged to spend time with themselves because it is fun. 🙂

I saw two pieces of change recently –

1. A cafe in Chinatown called ‘The Study’ that very thoughtfully left a book on each table and implicitly encouraging ‘loners’

2. This lovely quote from the Art of Loving

“Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.”
– Erich Fromm, Art of Loving


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